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ime usually fine about being single,as i like myself,and i like my company...but today,when xmas shopping for the kids,it was all too much..the lights,the xmas carols,couples holding hands,and i thought the kids should have presents chose by mum and dad,not by just me.....does xmas affect you?

Bryan - I think that Christmas can really heighten feelings, good and bad. Those who are lonely often feel even more so, those who are happy get caught up in it all. It can be a very hard time for some. Take care and look after yourself, Sheila x

Yes, Bryan. Christmas shopping today for my brother's family ... wishing we could shop for and see Christopher's grandchildren so far away across the sea, and for his daughter who, although in this country, she cannot see us or receive anything from us because of her OCD related mental illness. Joy

Had a weepy moment this morning whilst doing some christmas shopping at the local market and the town where I was born. Thought to my self how much my Mum would have loved looking round the town and the market as its very festive. She passed away last year. Viv

my eldest daughter,and myself are both working xmas day,and boxing day....now ime feeling guilty the youngest one will be on her own,although shes 19..i dont know! bryan.

Bryan - would it help her to be somewhere doing voluntary work helping others on Christmas Day ? or not? Joy

Bryan No what your saying and where you are coming from. I felt just the same when I was christmas shopping for the daughters/grandchildren the other day. But I look at it this way,we all miss our partners/wives/husbands but we must all go on and get on with life. That is the only way I can get through christmas. Sue

well,we all have a story to tell,its really interesting. joy,agree with you but...my eldest is a newly qualified nurse,and she suggested to her sister,that she could help out,in the childrens ward...wont tell you her answer! bendy,dont think george,could be any happier,than he is now! thank you everyone. bryan.

hiya bryan my friend how are you

Hello Bryan, You have your children and you are doing your best for them. I am sure that they appreciate what you are doing and whether their presents have been bought by one or both parents won't be the first thing they think about. Christmas is a difficult time and one where emotions can go into overdrive and it's quite understandable to feel the way that you do. Has your younger daughter got a friend with a family that she could spend Christmas with? That at least would help you feel less like you are letting her down. I shall be spending Christmas with family and will, no doubt, have a wonderful time but that still didn't stop my emotions taking over when my son rang from NZ for ideas as to what to buy everybody. When it came to my turn I said jokingly that he could wrap himself up and send home. Suddenly out of the blue my head decided that that wasn't funny at all and I bawled my eyes out over the phone. So, yes, it's a very emotional time when someone won't be with us for Christmas whatever the reason. I hope that you will have a great time despite being single Big hug with mistletoe Magsxx

Bless you, Bryan, I'll be thinking of you.

too many best wishes to thank you all. paul,that is really hard on you,perhaps in time to come,you can arrange xmas visitation,its your right my friend!! bryan.