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I had this from my Dad's cousin- I spent ages tracing him, he wrote back a nice letter enclosing a photo and said if I needed any info about the family just get in touch, wrote twice after that, both times enclosed SAE, heard nothing. I have now just put it down to experience. Not much else you can do.

I would send her a card BUT I don't have her exact email (only contact through FriendsReunited) and I can't find her on any electoral roll which makes me think that she's married or not where I was hoping she was. I wrote to an address that someone found. The person living there emailed me, and said that she no longer lived there. Thanks everyone for understanding. Her brother is a bit of a disappointment (into hard drugs) and was hoping that she would be different and would be interested. Her brother is nice enough though. Oh well! Maybe one day! Chloe

Sorry to hear that chloe, but you have tried and maybe she will come round. One thing about this hobby is to realise that not everyone is as interested in the family as we are. Don't let her bitterness make you bitter too. Ann Glos

Know how you must be feeling. I recently contacted a relation, but they just did not want to know, were not interested in the least re the family, only answer I could get was that The family were not close" it was a crushing disappointment after doing so much research on a particular branch, then getting excited knowing I had at last found a living rellie. Still, this something you have to accept when researching family history, you will receive disppointments as well as success. nothing you an do about it, just stick a pasty grin on your fact and try for someone else!!

Chloe, Give it time - whilst you may have been looking for her for ages, she is only just now having to deal with the "spectres" of the past. She'll probably come round, eventually. One of my not-so-distant branches has 'skeletons' and is gradually sorting itself out. She will probably contact you just when you've started to get into another branch ... I hope she does. Good luck! Jane

I agree with you Chloe - maybe she holds a grudge against the whole family - but since you have left her your address and phone number etc - heres hoping one day she WILL get in touch with you. good luck flower She

I think it’s sad when relatives, albeit distant ones, do not want to have any contact with you. I have emailed this one relative of mine, left my email address, my telephone number and my home address but to no avail. I know I have the right person. Her brother told me what schools she went to etc and I found her on FriendsReunited. There was some kind of fall out in the family, and even though I’m no part in it, I feel that I am paying for it. I have a picture of this woman as a school girl (my nana had it in her family album). I was so happy when I had finally figured out who it was, and assumed that they would feel the same, but they don’t. I think it’s rude when someone doesn’t even reply to say, ‘Thanks but no thanks.’ This side of the family (who are estranged from her brother) have all the family details and photos etc. And yet, I can’t see them because this woman doesn’t seem to want contact with me. It just makes me sad. What did I do to her to deserve such a blank? Chloe