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Bec...I havent the time to read everyone elses answers....but.....heres my idea......Treat yourself to an early xmas pressie to yourself and go get yourself a hunky escort!..Tell him your dilema and he will sure to play the part ....watch the ex'es gob drop....lol.....BTW..Time is a great healer :o) x

Sean - brilliant. Unfortunately his wouldn't even fill up the back of a stamp. How about a piece of rice? lol Miss L-Toe, thank you for your kind words. As for the hunky escort... I'll blow my own trumpet a bit here but.... I have a few admirers in the pub I work. I'm one of few SINGLE, young ladies in the area so finding a replacement wouldn't be a problem... just fancy playing the field. E.g. For months I have had a close friendship with a male friend who i'd only met once. We were very attracted to each other but I never considered cheating. Was single on the Sunday... slept in his arms the next night! becx

Bec, you're doing really great.........that's what you need to show him. I spent too long pining for my ex, wasted too much time over a cheating ****** that just isn't worth it. It hurts but you will find you are stronger than you imagined. Just get through each day as it comes for the time being, just be yourself. When he comes crawling back.....take a lot of satisfaction and tell him to sling his hook! Keep it up..... Take care Kxx

Thanks Katz Most of our friends (and even some of his family) have said that they think it's just a phase and then he'll realise he's made a mistake. The truth is - He hasn't made a mistake. He's made the best decision FOR ME!!! Feel like my life is starting over!

Bec...im glad your looking forward babes xxxx

Princess - Only because you have all made me see the light!

did you see the lyrics i posted for you on the songs thread?? xx

Bec - you certainly sound like you are getting there hun. Make the most of being single, call up your mates, hit the town and have lots of fun! :-)))

Becs Just remember, every dog has its day... Many years ago, I was in just this situation. Had to attend a "Do" where my ex arrived with his new love. I gritted my teeth for a while but she cornered me in the Loo and said something along the lines of "He never loved you, he told me so". Believe me, I could have KILLED her with my bare hands, but somehow didnt. I stuck my finger in her face and said "Remember this conversation, because one day you will be standing where I am standing now - and I will have the last laugh". Two years later he went off with a new one - it was the most satisfying day of my life!

Hiya Bec, I won`t say `sorry`, I`ll just say,better now than later,and remember, this world`s full of really nice blokes,( my wife found one )so go out,hold your head high,and enjoy yourself. Baz. XX

Hi Bec Big hugs. Nearly five years ago I split up with my fiance, I had been going out with him for 8 years and we were due to get married the following year, I found out he was cheating on me. Some of his family thought he was a complete idiot cheating on me and didnt want to know the girl he cheated on me with. I am still friends with some of his family and even now they call him a prat for finishing with me. Earlier this year his gf decided she had had enough of me still being mentioned by the family four years on and decided to come round to mine and punch my face in and warn me off going to a party of his relations which I had been invited to. I ignored her and went with my head held high, and in the end it was my ex and her that didnt go as the person whose party it was said they didnt want them there after what she had done to me. Having my ex's family support means alot to me, I have done nothing wrong just like you havent done anything wrong. Dont give up your evenings out with your friends, friends are important. Hugs Karen x

Bec how are you feeling tonight hun? You do know how proud we all are of you dont you! its not going to be easy..no one said it would be but I think you have got the strength to get through all this with as much dignity and pride as you can manage! Just do me a favour..whatever you do..Do not let him see how much you are hurting babe!! If you want to cry do it with us and not in front of him!! Dont let him have that satisfaction!! We are all here for you sweetie dont ever forget that Bev

Wow what a hard night I was adult. said to him that I wanted to remain friends and that I would make an effort with her. He laughed and said ok. He then sat there in front of me and told everyone what he was texting to her (both filthy and romantic!) and checked when I'd be out next so he could introduce us... Cannot believe how uncaring he's been. No "I'm sorry for doing this to you Bec"! What a complete and utter w******!!!

Yet another reason for you to count your lucky stars you're out of there, Bec. Hope you're keeping a list of all his negative points Crista

Crista - yeah I am It's just all so unbelievable. 2 weeks ago he was saying how much he loves me etc. Then he finishes with me for another girl. Then, when I should have punched his lights out, I offer the beacon of friendship. And he practically throws it back in my face... incredible!

Bec have not been on here for a week but have read your thread and you have been very brave I know how you feel I had only been seperated from my ex-hubby for 2 weeks (2 children) when I was visiting a friend in the hospital and he walked in with his new girlfriend she said hi my name is ??? he nearly died and I had great pleasure in saying hi I'm Deb his wife LOL Debs.

Sounds like you're doing all the right things though. Getting revenge is tacky and just makes you look like the bitter and twisted ex. Plus, it shows you're still thinking and obsessing over him. Nothing will get through to him more than you getting on with your life and getting a new fella. He'll hate to see that. Besides, console yourself with this. Most people who cheat will go on to do it again and again. You're better off out of there. Use it as a learning experience. It might take a while but you will look back on this and wonder what you ever saw on him or why you wasted your time with someone like that. That's a promise. Every day will get easier..... Crista

Thanks Debs and Crista Most of all I'm shocked that someone could be so cruel. Well like you've all said and I know, it's his loss. Silly silly boy (he's only just turned 20). And ultimately, what goes around comes around! Totally true!

Just turned 20! He's just a boy. You need a real man. Crista

Crista - i realise that BIG TIME! I did something I've wanted to do for 2 years but couldnt because I was with him. WOW! Men are the way forward... boys...they need to stay at home and be looked after!