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That's the spirit girl - keep it up and just show him! Kxx

Thank you again everyone I will look so good he won't recognise me! I've already lost about 5lbs this week (worry, stress etc) and was complimented on how nice I looked and how much weight I've lost last night! Am getting new glasses next week. Have booked an appointment for a hair cut. When I've lost some weight am going to go and buy some new clothes! becx

Look stunning, smile sweetly and wish her luck!! :O) Don't forget to add that if he strayed whilst with the best, he definitely will when dating then rest!!

HI as another wife dumped for a younger model, rise above it show that you are a better person than him, also sometime along the way forgivce him, it deals with the anger effectively, I actually sent my ex a card when I was ready which apologised if I had caused any problem and then forgave him for hurting me, he couldn't cope with it Linda P

Thank you everyone I'm feeling calmer today. In fact I had a dream that involved him and it's made me see things differently. Sod him! Everyone who has met or seen the new girl has said that she's nothing on me. She dotes on him and worships him which I never did (he wasn't worthy of it!). Now all I need to do is get through tomorrow night!! becx

aS i HAVE SAID BEFORE.... Revenge is a dish best served cold!! calm down before you do anything at all!! The fact he is telling what he is texting her is PATHETIC and Bec you need a man not a child!!

like everybody said just play it cool and soon you'll realise that you aren't acting, it really doesn't matter! you sound like a strong enough person to deal with this and talking and laughing about it are good ways to get over it. heard a story of a woman dumped by her hubby for someone younger, when she went to collect her things from the house he'd moved his new girlfriend in. she put fresh prawns into the hollow curtain rail and left them to rot! many weeks later she learnt from a mutual friend that her ex had had the house fumigated and was living in a hotel room because the smell (that they couldn't find) was overpowering!

Bec, sorry you are hurting, as the others advise, you are best not doing anything just be nice and friendly especially to the girl she is just a kid. Heard of a good revenge story though, bloke took his new girl away for two weeks somewhere nice and asked ex( who had taken it all sooo well about the break up) to feed the cat, ex got in to his flat, sprinked a pack of cress seed everywhere lightly misted the seeds with water and turned the heating up full and before she left with the cat called the speaking clock in NEW YORK and left the phone off the hook, cresss grows very quickly imagine his carpets and soft furnishings, like a lovely lawn when he got home Kathleen

I don't think so Bev,but she probably guessed. Good Luck Bec-actually pet all of the advice you are getting is much better to take notice of than me.It leaves you with dignity,Good Luck Love-Be Happy Hugs Rose

Rose that was brilliant!! Could you have pictured her face when she got the phone calls....Did she ever find out it was you

Carry on like nothing has happened,,,be nice to the kid he has picked up and laugh a lot,,,get some new lippy and act like nothing he has said really matters..Its just polite conversation with a turkey..

Bec,I suppose it is confession time. When I was inmy twenties I had a really close friend and she had a dreadful time with a very abusive husband.I was always there for her for years,even at 2am when she had been thrown out by him with no clothes.After some years, and we were still good friends and saw each other regularly, I met her in the supermarket and her manner was very evasive.She could not meet me in the eye.At that time my then husband was having yet another affair and yes you have guessed it,it was with her.When I found out,I was devastated,she knew what I has been through with him and had always been there for me before.Now,the one person who I thought I could trust above all others had betrayed me. I went through the usual period of grief and anguish and was on anti- depressants for weeks then one day I snapped out of it. I went out and bought a pack of blank post cards,a stencil and set to work making cards advertising her services as a massuer,giving French lessons etc etc.Thes I distributed in hallways of blocks of flats,on notice boards ,and telephone booths all over the city. Revenge was sweet. Maybe I should not have done it but I was only young and very hurt, Confession time over-Rose

Bec Just read your update on the other thread! Seems to me you are winding him up more! Why else does he feel the need to inform you all of what texts he is sending her!! Go ahead, make arrangements to meet her, be polite and I guarantee he will be wondering what the heck is going on with you.....Lets face it he will be expecting you to be heartbroken, what a shock to his ego to discover you are not! Dont look for revenge because that will bring you down to his level. (no matter how tempting). Carry on as you are doing, you will be getting to him more. Bev

get some tickets printed up with his name and number on and advertise them in the phone boxes around your area to state that if anyone wants a good time with him.then please phone this number.done it to my ex.what a laugh!!!xxxxx(:

Poor You Bec - I feel for you, you must be on a rollercoaster of emotion at the mo! This guy sounds downright bl**dy insensitive and I reckon you are better off without him if he can do this to you after the time you were together. I'm so angry for you!! Best way to hurt him is to act like it doesn't bother you - it's hard work, but you gotta look like you're having fun and aint interested in him anymore. Turn up with a male friend that he doesnt know as well, dont go over the top, just be seen to have male company - ALWAYS look your best too!! Try and rise above him - he doesn't deserve for you to waste time, energy and tears on him! It's gonna be a hard time for you just now, so make sure you got lots of 'good' people around you to keeps your spirits high. Good luck - ((((HUGS))))

Poor dog :o(

and while you are at it use his tooth brush with a bit of tooth paste on it to clean the plug hole it is great it makes it shine LOL Debs.

Kayleen don't you think women can be really mean if they want we no all the bad words LOL it is a shame we can't really say what we would like to say but the swearing might get out of hand LOL Debs.

Right Bec if the claws are out why don't you ask him why he wants a bike when he had a Rolls Royce LOL Debs.

Thanks Debra! Feel so confused. Am still in shock. Am upset. Am angry. Am happy. It's so much to take in...