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My mum is in hospital after having a stroke. I am finding it really hard coping with it. She is unable to care for herself at the moment and has to rely on the nurses with all of her personal care. Mum is unable to talk properly and gets her yes and no sometimes mixed up.She can not walk and has lost the use of her right arm with her left side has been left weak. She has to have help with her eating and drinking and is unable to go to the toilet She has been in 3 different hospital's now and i have not been very happy with her personal care. I have found her crying in frustration at having to wait until a nurse is free to help change her as she has messed herself again. i seem to be complaining alot to the nurses about the the way they look after her. Is it me or am i just being silly.

No you are not being silly in complaining. Your mother is a human being who has been struck down by illness. She should get the utmost respect, attention and care. If you don't think that is happening then scream blue bloody murder at them. My friend had this happen and she herself had been a nurse. She went absolutely ballistic. Threatened to contact the newspapers. They soon got their arses in gear. They don't like bad publicity.

thanks for your support

Hi Andrea, If you are not happy with the standard of care that your mum is recieving, then I think you are quite within your rights to complain. After all, if they don't know know it's not up to scratch, they can't put it right unless someone points it out to them. I really feel for both you and your mum. My thoughts are with you both. Best wishes Paula xx

Andrea So sorry to hear about your mum,no it's not you love. Has your mum had a physiotherapist to help her with getting her arms/legs exercised to make her muscles stronger. When my late husband had a stroke the physio asked me to get some soft balls so he could hold them in his hands and squeeze them.got soft balls from Poundstretcher 4 for a £1. Ask the doctors when your mum is going to start physio to help her. Hugs to you and your mum Sue

andrea,ime so sorry,to hear about your mother,and i hope she makes a good recovery,but it does take time...you havent given her age,so its hard to say more. nurses work long hours,and are overworked,and underpayed,considering they are professionals,and well qualified. the ..new charter..will put more responsibilities onto nurses,they know only to well,that they can go to the states,and earn big money,as the americans realise,just how good our nurses are....but most stay here,as its not the money that keep them motivated. please feel free to email me,about your mother,with more detail,and i will do my best to help you. best wishes to your mother....bryan.

thanks all for advice and help