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I agree with Abigail - well said! I must be getting old, because I've thought this sort of thing for many years. Some people have nothing else to think about perhaps ........

God bless Graham. He will live on in the boys he helped because he has changed their lives. It is a great pity for humanity that there are not more people who are committed to helping the community raise its young. Why do I feel that there is too much prurient interest in sex - seeing it when it is not there even? Thinking of his mother and his friends. Abigail

thanks jim for telling us how the day went . take care my friend x

Let's hope Graham's memory will haunt those vicious tongues. Take care Jim, Glenys x

This is a really frightful story. That poor, poor man.My son said, just a few months ago 'there is no room in todays world for people like dad!' When he was a little boy my husband took him every where and played cowboys and indians, dragons, anything he wanted to play. All the mothers in the street were delighted to get a bit of peace,when my hubby went up the street followed by half the kids in the neighbourhood. Hes afraid to talk to a kid in the street now. what a world . That poor man! Deanna

Only just seen this thread. The Devil makes work for idle tongues. What a waste.

So very pleased love and respect was shown to him and may he rest in peace. Linda x

Just to update everybody. I haven't seen so many people at a Funeral since Diana's. There were well over 200 people at the Crematorium. Many more turned up this afternoon at the Reception. It was so good to see many of the young men, my son included, paying their respects to a man who had been their friend. A Senior Police Officer gave a eulogy, as did his Brother, while his Brother-in-Law led the service. I got the opportunity to tell his Mother that it had been a privilege to work alongside him in the Community. Rest in Peace Graham... You deserve it.

Sorry i could'nt get on to reply before now Jim,it's a terrible thing to happen ,more so when you were close i'm with you all the way, and iv'e added a prayer from Liz and myself that he finds at last the peace that he deserves,but what a terrible road to find it.Fred.ptfg.

Jim, Sorry to hear your sad news, thinking of you and your friend's family. Margaret.

Will be thinking of you Jim Ann Glos

Shall be thinking of you all. Joy

Hi everyone, Thanks again for your support and thoughts. The funeral is tomorrow morning. Perhaps I will be able to find out more then. Jim

Jim, I think this should be a lesson to us all, we may have thoughts about people, but it is sometimes kinder to keep them to ourselves. Even on this site, this applies too. June xx

Hi Grampa Jim I don't know what else to say except that I am sorry to hear your sad news. My thoughts are with you and his family and friends. Nicola xx

oh jim how awful.it just shows the effect that what people say to people can drive them to suicide.very sorry.love and hugsxxx):

Surely someone must have put in a complaint about his closeness to one of the lads? Otherwise, the rumours wouldn't have been substantiated. If he knew he was innocent of wrongdoing, and bearing in mind his mother's reliance on him, would he have committed suicide? He probably just enjoyed the companionship of young people outside the home, which replaced the 'missing' family that most men would have had by his age.......... It's his mum I feel sorry for - not only has she lost her son, she has to carry the stigma with her too......... Are we too 'aware' these days? Our son was in Church Lads' Brigade and other organisations and I never questioned the Leaders' motives - they did excellent work with the boys.....was I naive, I wonder?

Jim that's so very sad. Love and hugs to you and your friends family. Jack x

Oh Jim,What a dreadful thing to have happened.Poor man ,So sorry to hear this.People can be vey malicious-Rose

Jim, So sorry to hear of this, thought with you at this time. Claire xx