General Chat

I have a 12yr old lad and would never put him under that kind of pressure! Its his life and as long as he is happy and healthy it doesnt matter what kind of job he has!! A friend of mine was "forced" to go to university to study for being a lawyer and suffered with a nervous breakdown because he couldnt handle the pressure! I could never put anybody through that! Yes it would be nice if he chose to go down that path but it would be entirely up to him. Bev

If our child had been cloned (and was a replica of ourselves), perhaps we could choose a profession for them. BUT babies have a mix of genes within them (and can even be a throwback to an ancestor) so how do we know what they will best be suited to, jobwise? We certainly have to avoid living out OUR own aspirations in them!! HAPPINESS in work has to be the priority - we spend enough of our lives there!! Dilys

Strange that, Len. I wanted to be a mad scientist but ended up as an accountant.

Definitely not. My Dad, a school head master, decided that I should enter one of the professions. Later he decided it should be Accountancy. I wanted to be a research scientist but Dad prevailed. I qualified as an Accountant and spent the next 45 years doing a job I found tedious and boring. Len

My son worked in warehousing for several years and then joined the police force. He heard that he passed his Sargeant's exam today so we're pleased for him, especially as he's getting married in the summer.

as long as they're both happy in what they do thats fine by us. at the mo my 10yr old want to be a writer and 7 yr old want to own a sweet shop LOL. i wasn't very academic at school,not because of lack of ability but i just wasn't interested,since the age of 10 i wanted to be a hairdresser and when it came to that i excelled and did really well in those exams.

How would I know the job would still be there?!

My daughter is 15 and although we will give her all the support and help we can, it will be he decision as to what she does for a living. I just hope that unlike my son, she does something!! Jacky :-)

Daisy - my son is 25 now and is married with a little one of his own - I am so proud of him - he is a good man - kind caring considerate - everything I ever wanted him to be - his sister is nearly 22 and she also has a little one - she is just the same too :-) guess I am lucky

i can remember at playschool - all the mothers standing waiting on their little precious' coming out of the class. You get the ones who say - oh yes Tarquin is going to follow in daddys footsteps and be a lawyer and oh yes Jasmine will be a doctor - when they asked me what I wanted David to be - my reply was simple - I want him to be happy. And I can honestly say - my wish for him came true :-)

Well I think we all would and they would be doctors and solicitors etc. BUT it would be impossible. When your child is born you have no idea what sort of personality they will have, what interests they will have and they have yet to have experience of life. All of these will have an effect on what they will become. And I think I can safely speak for all parents when I say that it doesn't really matter what your children do for a living, as long as they are happy. By the way, my daughter takes her GCSE's this year. She hasn't done any work for months and is way behind. But she has found something she wants to do (beauty therapy - will come in handy for my wrinkles! lol) and assures us she is going to work hard to get what she wants. We'll see! Jeanette x Mandy - we've just had the 'earning or learning' conversation with our daughter

No, definitely not. We just want our son to be happy and fulfil his potential. However, the only stipulation we have made is that if he wants us to continue supporting him and/or living at home, he has to be 'earning or learning'. We will not support a layabout - even if he can't find suitable employment, he must do voluntary work. He is due to take his GCSEs this summer and wants to go on to 'A' levels, then uni - but we have said that it's 100% his own decision. And at 16, he doesn't even hate us for saying all this lol! Mandy :)

And what would it be?