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He went back to school today keeping fingers crossed he will behave

Just to let you know I got work for him to do and he has done it he has been ok today. The tablets he is on is the slow release tablets 54mg a day and 4mg sleep tablets to be honest he has always been worse than my eldest some times the school is ok as he has 3 days help paid for as extra but it doesn't always work anything sets him of and even Robin can't do anything but they do try. Yes Maz I am on your other thread i just needed to let off steam. It is good to know I have people who listien with out judging me

Hi Val, sorry to hear you've had a bad day. I was just about to put up a thread saying 'two teenage boys' for sale' but I think you beat me to it! Neither of my boys have 'special needs' but they still get me down sometimes and have complaints made against them so I sympathise. I tell myself I'm doing my best and just keep plugging away at it. Think I'll be opening a bottle tonight! I'll save you a glass.

Maz is right Val. My nephew is the same and got picked on so badly last week he was off school for a day with concussion. He tries so hard and getting his medication correct has been very helpful but the school liaising with him and his parents has been the best thing. Have you a special named teacher you can make an appointment with? If they send him home as a way of avoiding dealing with him have you tried the strategy of "Well he needs to be learning so could you send me the work schedules you are doing with him at the moment and I will make sure he does them and I will return them to you for marking and by the way could you give me a workshop of advice on teaching methods you use with him?" If it is more work to send him home than keep him perhaps they will make more of an effort to integrate him! Good luck! Abigail

Hi Valerie - hope you are having a better day today. You HAVE been on the special needs thread before haven't you?? My memory is terrible! My dear son laid on the floor at home-time today because someone had birthday sweets for the class and there wasn't one he liked! The strangest things can set them off. Sorry to say it, but I think your school should be HELPING him more - exluding him is not going to solve anything. Maybe his dosage needs to be changed - after all he is growing - see if you can get an appointment with the psych people or whoever prescribes for you. Chin up luv Maz. XX

Thank you every one for your support John is on slow release Ritalin 54mg a day and 4mg sleep tablets a night. If I take anything away to long he gets bored then very distructive I have to like it though older one they are trying to get him off the tablets he is only on 18mg a day

Have you tried taking thing off him for a while, like tv or comp, or cd. Iknow my daughter is only nearly 13 but when i take things she enjoys out of her room she soon turns into the nice girl i remember, but i always leave it a few days for her to show she can be good again.

So far tried lots of things try tell him off takes mood swings, put him in room wrecks things but anything worth a try

Hi Valerie, something I've tried with our 11-y-o son on several occasions when he's been bad is: telling him to get a piece of paper and pen, then asking him to list up to 5 bad things about him, then when he's done that asking him for at least 10 good things about him. This has turned the tables for him when he's done this; don't know if you fancy giving it a try. Glenys x

Thanks every one nice to know have friends on this site

Amanda, I thinks thats a really great idea. Somewhere we could blow off all our frustrations and get advice from each other. Joanxx.

I know what you mean last week he tried to hit teacher with mop pole gets me down

Val, I'm so sorry. Being a parent is tough isn't it? Stay on here and chat to your friends, we will try and support you all we can. Love and hugs, Mandy xx

I know, sometimes I fell like shouting YOURE RUINING MY LIFE! Those are the bad days. I usually force myself to hug and make up, I think he can feel unloved sometimes. Trouble is I am bad tempered too and prone to outbursts of swearing. Then I get it all back obviously! Does your son find it hard to be hugged? The old message of Mummy loves you is SO important.

Makes me wonder why I try and do good things for them I mean they have everything

Val? are you ok?

He is 12yrs old but have 18yr old I thought would get better but they are not

I'm sorry Valerie, there but for the gace of god go I and many others here too. Tenage boys can be such a strain at times. Chin up old girl, try and think of the kind and lovely things he must sometimes do. Like hearing my hot tempered lad talking softly to the cat when he thinks he is all alone! Mines 14 on Friday, been short tempered for years. Tow big sisters who are very close - to each other & he feels excluded. Tell me something nice about him. joanxx.

arguing over football with couple of boys teacher told them off so he swore at her. My son has ADHD so the kids know what buttons to push he was supposed to play school football team tomorrow now he can't

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