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my poor daughter is in a bad mental place. A week ago a boy was stabbed by two others on her doorsep. Along with a neighbour tried to render ist aid to no avail whilst police looked on.He was unresponsive and died later
Afterwards she had to clear the blood away and then deal with visits by the family.
There are flowers etc left by people visable from her window and doorway. Now the lads best friend visits everyday and she sees him crying. She has done her best to comfort them but the shock has now hit home and she is in bits
I try to comfort her but it is only on the phone
I know it will take time but leaves me feeling helpless. My thoughts are with the boys family, heavens knows what they are going through

Your poor daughter. She needs to forgive herself as I expect part of the problem is that thinks she could have done more.

For the rest, maybe she could contact the police and ask that the family asks friends not to go there and for them to find a public area elsewhere that they can use to remember the poor lad. If the flowers are on her doorstep then she should tell the police to pass on the message that they will be removed on a certain date and, maybe, taken to the local cemetery.

Maintaining hope that things will get better is vital.

i dont think she will do that , shes a softie and understands why the family want to be there, at least she was able to witness support

Dear Maddie

Hello

So sorry to hear this.

I would suggest contacting Victim Support and also getting a phone appointment with her GP.

Take gentle care of yourself and your daughter
My love and respect
Elizabeth, EOS
xx

I'm so sorry to hear this Maddie. I feel for your daughter and all involved <3

thank you very much appreciated

How awful for your daughter, Maddie - and the family of the boy.
I hope your daughter gets the professional help she needs <3

so sad for the family, they cannot bury their son within the time limits of their culture

hoping my daughter will get help, just have to wait so many people in need these days

That is sad. There could be such a long gap which is making it worse for the family and friends.

She needs to talk it through. It took me a while to get over someone having a major heart attack at my feet. I know I did everything I could , but was approached a week later and told 999 was the wrong number :-S. She got right in my face to say it. It wasn’t until the unfortunate man died a few days later that I started getting over the shock. What your daughter is going through is so much worse

What a terrible thing to happen.

Can't think of anything else to say.

i wish i could help but too far away and now lock down so can't get her tickets to stay a few days
roll on december, maybe

An awful experience for your daughter Maddie, I do hope she can receive some help/support to help her get through it. So sad for the victim's friends and family too. It is sometimes an awful world we live in when life is considered so cheap.

What a terrible thing to happen to that poor young man and for your daughter to be involved in the way she was/is.

I hope she will be able to come through such a tragedy, knowing she did her best to help him and is being considerate of the poor lad's family and friends.

Ringing her doctor and talking things through with maybe a Police Family Support Officer might be the next steps.

Best wishes to her

Lizxx