General Chat

Thank you ShelleyRose :-)

Aw Tawny I feel so stressed reading your posts, I hope everything turns out well for you and Mr Owl on your big day, stay calm and enjoy it.

I remember getting married 40 years ago, we paid for the wedding ourselves (my father had passed away 3 weeks before), so it was a bitter/sweet occasion, we had to source everything ourselves in those days, flowers, cars, reception, cake, church, photographer, etc we couldn't afford more than 30 guests, we had no evening do, and we had a holiday/honeymoon a year later abroad.

I wish you and Mr Owl all the best for your future together. <3

Gawd, David!!! :-0

My Mum wondered whether we would make it down the aisle as we argued all the time. :-0

I think she secretly put the flags out when we managed. :-D

Take heart, David. Talking at work one day, many moons ago, we all believed that if a married couple never argued it was because one always gave in, We all knew a couple like that and the one who stepped back every time was the one who ended up an anxious bod. Who wants to live like that? It ought to be give and take, no matter how much you argue your corner.

I tried that old saying on my OH - happy wife, happy life - ha ha ha. :-D

My wife and I never once disagreed until we married. Now almost 40 years on
there's hardly a day goes by without a ding dong :-D

<3 <3 <3

Congratulations Mersey :-) I hope you have a wonderful day <3 and thank you

Hi Tawny I only said something in the lines of I was getting married in 6 weeks and
wishing you a perfect day.
<3 <3

Hopefully GR will see that the RRer is pathetic and reinstate the post to show this <3 <3

Apologies Mersey but your post had vanished before I got a chance to read it. Fingers crossed everything works out in the end.

I spotted it and there was absolutely nothing wrong with it. :-0

RR perhaps jealous?

I can't think of any other reason as Mersey's post was innocuous.

So, be brave for once, RRer; let's have your reason for your action.

9 weeks to go and my hairdresser has just pulled out. Now to find another one for 9 weeks time when it’s also ladies day at the races. The hotel said that they would have flowers for the top table when we booked. They have just announced they won’t be doing that now either cue more panic as the florist hasn’t got back to me to say if she has time to add a top table display to the list. :-( :-( :-(

Bridesmaids are friends and not family. I’ve told a couple of other friends what I want for my hen night too just so I get the message across. Everything will be alright on the night as they say.

Are bridesmaids close relatives. Make sure they know you are in charge. It is not a 'knees up' for them it is YOUR day. Make sure you enjoy it.

Gretna Green has many advantages.

Bridesmaid causing havoc with the hen night now. There is a shopping street in Edinburgh called George Street and the shops and restaurants are for the most part very nice and so are the prices. Her query was which one of these George Street restaurants takes my fancy??? Answer none of them as I want everyone to be able to comfortably afford it. So where do I want to go clubbing after dinner???? Nowhere as most of us are in our 30s and 40s now and most of them have young children under 7 years. Dinner and cocktails good clubbing bad. Cue a few oh buts and I have what I want.

Now to tell troublesome bridesmaid that she’s not staying over the night before the wedding and the other bridesmaid is. This is nothing to do with the trouble she might cause especially when alcohol is around and more to do with space and practicality. Bridesmaid one stays 10 miles outside the city with husband, 2 small children and one car. Bridesmaid 2 stays 2 miles away in the city with mum, stepdad and 2 cars as well as handy bus service which runs between the 2 houses every 20 minutes on a Saturday.

Bridesmaids tried on their dresses tonight and with some slight alterations to the straps they’ll be perfect. One thing down another 900 to go.

Sadly we can’t afford to contribute much money for the wedding. Mr Owl graduated from university for the second time in May last year and we moved into our own home in July 2017. Whilst we are managing all our responsibilities which includes two cats we couldn’t resist there isn’t a lot left at the end of the month. My parents planned their wedding in six weeks back in 1979. It was rushed as my dad was changing jobs and moving from England to Scotland and my mum was at nursing college at the time. The only way she could move with him without having to repeat the entire course was if her husband changed jobs. So quickly up the aisle and the transfer was approved 5 months later so they could celebrate their first Christmas as a married couple on the same side of the border. I think that’s why they are throwing so much at mine.

It took 3 weeks to arrange my wedding 44 years ago

The cake was baked the next day By a very kind lady
and then sent to a lovely couple to be iced
all basket work I still have one of the sides
The reception I did myself
and it was a wonderful day <3

Tawny ....

can you afford to share some of the cost with your parents?

It's lovely that they are paying, but it does give them control. Sharing a little of the cost would give you some control.

Remember ................ it is YOUR wedding, not theirs. They might want to do what they think is the ideal marriage for their daughter, but is does NOT have to be so.

We and our daughter shared the costs of her marriage back in 1999 .............. it was by no means 50/50, but we gave her control, only asking that about 5 or 6 people really should be invited, and moist of those would have had to travel from England. Only one couple accepted ;-)

She and her bridesmaids conferred on colour and style of dress, and then THEY made them. She found her ideal wedding dress on the bridesmaids' rack in a wedding shop, and it cost less that $150 (or ~£80).

:-D :-D

Maggie, you need to tell Bernie Ecclestone about that archer! ;-) :-D