General Chat

dear Ann and others, this is a very interesting topic.
I've been reading different topics for quite a few months now, and up until now really only felt ok about contributing to the Rhyming and Poetry. its intention is to keep in touch with each others activities through rhymes.
I feel that sharing my activities this way is easier, and the others made my efforts very welcome.

whereas I tried earlier to add a thought on another topic, and was not acknowledged, in fact i was skipped over, and the following person was spoken to. So I never got "stuck in" again. But I
guess I should have persevered.
I'd like to take heart and make a friend or two around the world.
I used to have what was called a pen friend, but that idea has long been rolled over.
I agree it certainly takes quite a bit of courage to get started.

Annette

Island, it was a very good reason that it was formed -
http://www.familytreeforum.com/index.php

I would recommend, too -

http://genealogistsforum.co.uk/forum/index.php

http://www.rootschat.com/forum/index.php

http://www.bbcwhodoyouthinkyouaremagazine.com/forum/

Hi Sue

I'm guessing the question is 'why don't people answer my messages'?
Someone did get a particularly unpleasant response recently.

GR are to blame there. I'm sure I'm not the only one who has suggested a sticky on the subject to prevent upsets. I still haven't had a response after about a month.

Hello Ann, SRS, BC, M&S, H&C and allPS,
I hope you are not too cold today, no snow in the SE but it's fair perishin'

I've never got on with 'unthreaded' boards as I can't type quickly but can see the speed they move at can be a source of hilarity for those who can keep up. I think GR chat must have been that way before I discovered the forums.

I much prefer threads and have to confess that at times I just check 'my threads' otherwise I would spend too much time here!
Sometimes I look at 'general' and the front page seems to be full of very old games hreads so I don't bother. Obviously the games are popular with some.

I'd vote for a general threaded board, a fast moving chat board and a seperate games board.

I have no interest in rows and can't keep up with who's been banned but whether someone is right or wrong bickering is off putting for others.

Wasn't there a group of people from here who set up a family tree forum a few years back because they were fed up of GR for whatever reason?

Have to say though, I think the main reason for people no longer posting is that the novelty has worn off.

Wrap up well and keep waaaaaarm :-)

Agree it would be a good idea to merge the two boards Chat and General as stated by some, as they seem to be the same anyway. The only slight difference being I think, some people post more on either one board or the other, while a few post on both.!!.
As a one off I saw some innocent person post an obviously much asked question, only to be 'shot down in flames' in my opinion. I tried to defend but opposion too strong.!! I bet that person never posts again.
I think the boards could be more'welcoming ' to new people even if they dont post all that often.
Thanks SRS and Ann for your comments on posting.

Hi Ann,

Thank You for the welcome.

I put a weather thread up only morning ~hope all is well your end.

Lxxx

Maybe if everyone made an effort to come on here more and also tried to add their own threads, no matter how trivial, then it could pick up again. I have noticed SRS puts up lots of threads, some take off, some don't but they keep the boards moving which is what we want. Even threads like this and the what is your weather like generate some interesting discussions. Let's all try it.

Good to see you Lizz

I agree with you Anne the heart is missing from here and it is such a shame.
I used to come a lot,but now it just know and again.

Lxxx

Thank you for that BC. I do feel that GR admin have a lot to answer for as they have, in the past gone totally over the top with banning people without getting to the heart of the matter. Life bans are so unfair for people who have given so much for the boards, and as soon as they instigated those their friends left. I know people should be adult and not bite back but we are only human and I feel a month, 3 months, 6 months would be fair bans before a life ban.

I too am too old to fell intimidated (sorry, not insinuating you are old of course BC I know youa re only 21) by any trouble makers. I will not let them interfere with my pleasure.

Thank you for this thread, Ann and it is interesting to read the various replies. I think it is natural to contribute to the threads where you feel 'comfortable', and that is what people have done. Speaking for myself, I enjoy a bit of fun and fantasy, a break from reality, and we have had such wonderful threads in the past, but since Hayley, Muffy and Sueping, TW left, I feel things have got a bit 'flat'?

But the heart will always be there. GR was the first forum I ever joined (all those years ago) and like you, Ann, I am very fond of it and the people on it. I have never felt intimidated by any of the nasties who appear from time to time, and it would certainly not stop me posting

Here's to a few more laughs on the boards! BC XX.

Oh I know what Patricia means ;) When I started & just used the genealogical boards, I used to think General (& then chat) was a bit scary but in some respects I think they've mellowed, it's the genealogical boards that can be a bit fraught at times. (still full of nice people though)

Thank you for your input Patricia and Linda. I will have a look at the friendly thread, dip my toe in the water but it is a bit daunting on such a long thread I have to admit.

Patricia, I think the general board is used how it always was. GR suddenly put the way it should be used up long after it started. Originally there was a chat board which was not threaded, just post after post which could be hilarious and fast moving but chaotic and there was a general board for general discussion. Then GR had some sort of 'fit' and changed the chat board to a threaded board, at the same time they decided to put instructions that the general board should be for general discussion on genealogical topics, which is actually what happens on the Tips board. So they confused peopel. Those who had always chatted on the gen board stayed there and those that chatted on the chat board stayed there and some left. Gradually those that are on the gen and chat boards drift across and back which is why they could now be happily merged.
I can't comment on your other topic of people criticising etc as I rarely go on Records board except toa sk for help. But no hornets nest your comments were valid.

Hi Ann
Hope you pop in to Friendly Thread when you want some company.

I have been on here for about 5 years now and we are a bit nutty but it's one of my favourites along with daffs and a few others I read quite a few but don't always add.

I have met a few people from GR now, a lot when we had a Berkshire meet several years ago. Lots of those have left or no longer post. More recently I have met Jude at the Usk Show last year. Sue(off Friendly at Sandhurst this June and in October Marilyn off Friendly too. Seems we can get to know each other through "chatting"" even just using words and shared experience.

Everyone welcome I'd suggest going to last page and going back just a page or two to get the feel of us and wouldn't dream of trying to read it all as it has been running for a couple of years now !!!!

Linda :o) XxX

Deanna, might the answer be for you to get a laptop and wireless so you could use the laptop in your warmest room. We do miss you when you don't post on here you know. And thanks for thinking of us.

Island, I have tried, I am always 'getting stuck in' and adding threads. but sometimes it is really hard going.

Sue, Just put your threads up, wacky or not (actually some of us like wacky!), if nobody replies it can't hurt you and who knows you might hit on one that is popular.

And yes, threads with thousands of replies are a bit daunting I agree, but I know that if you put a post on usually you will be welcomed.

I am so sorry girls... and boys..... I have to admit to NOT coming on very much lately, but I am SO COLD.
My computer is in 'The Cubby' which at one time was the 'coal hole' in the bungalow.
it has no heating , and a stone floor.
we did have carpet on it but it has long since been 'shredded' by use and I need a new one.

Just like you Ann (as you no doubt know) I am so addicted to the *general board*, and would hate to see it go.
I apologise but I am SO COLD.
I will certainly try and be here more often.....
If I don't use it, I may lose it and I would be so sorry about that.

Does it count at all that I think of you all all the time? ;-0)

Deanna X

Hi to you all, I've only been a member for about 10 months but I love these boards. All the chat and silly threads as well as the serious ones. Lots of very nice people on them still but I guess some others will always be difficult or out to just start an argument. I'm not on FB so am happy to stay here with new found friends many who have helped this newbie get further back with research which was proving hard. Thanks to everyone

Cath xx

"It seems to be a case of who you 'know'"

I tend to agree with you there Sue unfortunately.

However, I think you should post anyway - I wouldn't worry about being Whacky, there's enough of us on here that fit that description lol

Only yesterday I saw a thread which had only one reply, and it was in my opinion a good idea for a thread. So I posted.
Later in evening I saw another thread , the same thing essentially, but worded slightly differently and as the poster was well known, replies seemed to flow in.
I couldnt help thinking, if I was the poster of first thread, would feel a bit let down.
Also agree, if ideas are slightly off the average there is not much response. Maybe people are uneasy about being different.? Sometimes I have had ideas but daren't post for being thought of as whacky. We are all individuals and i feel there is narrow mindedness on here.
I hope no one takes offence at this!!

It seems to be a case of who you 'know'

Only been on about a year (I think) and have chatted with several of you.
Tried FB but didn't like it, threads on GR are funny,sad and interesting.
Am not on in the evening so have missed the arguements till I read them
the next day well, the least said about them the better, I don't mind people's opinion and have given mine but once I've said my piece I forget about it and wouldn't think of holding a grudge. OK I know some have been bullied and followed to other threads by folk and that is a sad way for adults to behave, don't know the solution to that one. On the whole I like
the site but I have a problem joining a site with 1,000's of replies in it, feel I am intruding into something private, stupid really but thats just me. lolx

Emmax

Hello Island,

I'll give you the time of day :)

I don't think it was a moan, just a way of seeking solutions....and you've got a good solution....get stuck in lol

I think it's disheartening when you start threads and people don't respond. Or when you answer and people take it the wrong way and it becomes personal. But as you say there's some friendly people on here - Ann's always been one of them :)))