General Chat

can someone tell me what it will be like to have 1 week of chemo through a drip and radiotherapy then 4 weeks of radiotherapy every day then another week of both, its not a lot of chemo , anyone any idea please.

Im aware there are different amounts just a rough idea please xx

thanks annie xx

Sorry, hun... I only had chemo, and mine was extremely intensive, as it had to virtually kill off my bone marrow. Have a look on those websites... ask on one of the forums, I am sure someone will answer you.

Take care

Love

Daff xxxxx

Thanks daff keep forgeting about the sites lol, im wondering why such a harsh treatment when they say the have removed tumours and 1 lymph node mum is cracking up so im trying to find stuff out xx

could someone give personal experiances also, would rather hear it if someone dosnt mind of course xxxx

hello how is everyone xxxxx

To Ladylol Pusser Cat.
In March of this year I lost my beautiful wife to cancer.
In August 2007 my wife had a swollen breast that was very hot. She went to the our GP and he sent her for tests. We thought "well it's not so bad she will have the breast removed and som e chemo and that will be that." Well after the tests the surgeon said that he would not remove her breast as it was more serious than we thought. More test revealed that the cancer had gone to her liver and her lungs. After two and a half years of painful chemo and other treatments we thought that we might be getting somewhere. But she started to get worse. On Wed. 4th March she woke me at about 2 in the morning in great pain.
We rang the ambulance and had her admitted to hospital. To cut along story short, the doctors found that the cancer had ruptured her bowel and they could not operate. On the 9th of March she slipped away from this life. Iam comforted bythe knowledge tha this life is not all that there is. I know tat she and I will be reunited after I leave this life too.
Families are forever.
Love and hugs I know what you feel.
Kenneth

Hello, Kenneth, I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful wife. Please accept my deepest and most sincere condolences.

I very nearly left this life a couple of times during my treatment, and know how devastated my own husband was, and still is, at the thought of losing me. I was very lucky indeed, and through very skilled nursing and intensive and aggressive treatment, I have survived. My cancer could not be cut out, it was Acute Myeloid Leukaemia, so very different from your wife. But just as devastating to those who love me, and could only stand by and watch my battle.

I know this sounds a bit crazy, but when I was close to dying, I was very aware of it. I knew exactly what was happening to me. But, it was sweet, and gentle, no pain, and very very comforting. I was glad to be revived, (three times in one night) but dying no longer holds any fear. I know there is a better place, where I will meet again all those I have loved and have now gone on. I do hope that will provide you just a little bit of comfort, amidst your deep grief.

I still have a wait, and am not out of the woods, yet, but every day brings me closer to that goal. I reach an excellent landmark in November, so look forward to that!

Take care, and (((((((((((hugs))))))))))) for you.

Love

Daff xxxx

Dear Kenneth , thankyou for sharing your story, i agree with our Daff there is somewhere beautifull and your beautiful wife is there free from pain. ive heard how bad the pain is on this earth , again let this help others who may need to have there breasts checked cancer is not something other people have , i get mine checked again next monday., thankyou again Kenneth xxxxx

Sdad has scan on monday before he starts chemo, we wernt expecting this as his consultant said the operation was a curatitive type, and not knowing any other cancer in the family we are still green about it all, i understand its all precaution but they wouldnt be doing it if they didnt think it may have spread in the intrim of operations, mayby it being in a nearby lymph gland .
Sdad is not coping very well with the tupe that has been fitted to have urinate he feels it rubs and he feels sore, medics say its a forieghn body and his body is trying to reject it !!! the doctor had to ask Ddad where it was .
So scan monday results wed then treatment , mum wont contact anyone to off load on cause im doind a good job, and i really dont mind ,
I think if the consultant had explained things from the onset that mayby it may not be a curritive op and it may have spread the shocks that keep coming wouldnt be so bad, as i say we have been so lucky that cancer has not played a part in our immediate family, although Sdad has a son brother and father 2 of which have died, so fingers crossed for monday xx

Iam finding this very hard, my poor mum is dying from bowel cancer that has now spread to her lungs and liver.
I am sittting with her all day till l go to bed at night she does come round a few times a day and thats when we give her some drink but she has refused all food today and the district nurse is comming in tomorrow to put a driver in so she will be getting pain relief 24/7.
I can't believe how tiring it is doing nothing, we were told last week she may have a couple of day or weeks left .
Don't want her to go but this is not good, how did you cope if you've been in this situation..............l'd love to know, thanks.

Mummo, the thought of having difficuty breathing horrifies me, its my worst nightmare. It seems obvious that there is nothing can be done to help her get better, so all you can do is wish her a mecifully quick release. I know it is hard and you will miss her for years but you must think of the suffering she is enduring and try not to hold her with you. Time enough for grieving afterwards.

Hi mummo i totally agree with jean, the morphine driver will help her gently slip away peacefully where she will be with loved ones, rwemember you have all of us to talk too, i dont know what it is like in your position, im only supporting my mum with my step dads cancer and that is hard and tiring, you must have a break even for a hour, book an appointment and get your hair trimmed just a bit of pampering for you but i guess the thought of not being there at the end hurts too, you have been wonderfull helping and looking after your mum she will know this but she will want you to be looking after you too she wouldnt want you ill, hope im saying the write things i mean well take care and you know where we are xxxxx love lorraine xxxx

n

Kenneth, just read your post and wanted to let you know that I am so sorry for your loss.

Mummo, I agree with Jean and Puss, hopefully the morphine can ease her suffering and that she can peacefully pass away to a better place and be without pain.


Have had a bit of a crappy week. Been feeling constantly unwell. Went to the colposcopy clinic on friday and they took a biopsy, which is still (slowly) bleeding. I will wait a little bit longer and hopefully it will stop and if it doesn't then back to hospital I go.

Had a fall on thursday nite down some concrete steps at home. Was moving some firewood and going down the steps and fell. Still don't know how it happened. Ended up being sore for days, and still a little sore in the hips.

Hope everyone is doing ok.

Annie
xxxxxx

Annie you poor love as if you didnt have enough to cope with too, i hope it stops bleeding for you xx
its horrible when we fallit jolts so many body bits plus the shock makes you feel a bit vunerable, i have to use a stick for different reasons in garden now better than falling for me but ive been told id probably bounce back up lol xxxxx

Hi, sorry haven't replied earlier but the server at work is blocking me from coming on this site so am trying to get that fixed.

Its funny you should mention bounce, cos when I told my partner brendon about the fall he said that I should be ok cos I would only have bounced when I fell. He did receive a hard pinch for that.

my Sdad has just been told his cancer has spread it is in his blood groin and liver they have told him he may die if treatment does not work.

I am so sorry to hear that... let's hope and pray the treatment works. I was told Feb 2009 that there was little chance of my surviving the treatment.. not that they worded it quite like that, it was much more gently put, until I asked outright what my chances actually were... but just look at me now, so don't give up hope, and do you know, they talk about positivity and determination... and that was me... some of my family had me in my coffin and on my way to the crem with their panic (not my sons and hubby, although they were very scared) but I decided I would have none of that, and would surround myself only wioth those who believed in me, or could successfully hide their fear.

I am not saying that is right for everyone, but it was the only way forward for me.

I do hope your sdad has a successful course of treatment, so everything crossed, and loads of positivity winging his way.

Love

Daff xxxx

Daff, they gave me a year, and I said, not likely! Have always been positive and am still here, still surviving, though it is getting harder.