General Chat

Carry On, is right! Watch it Allan, you're on your own and the girls are gathering around!!

Hello Berona...I promise that I will not make any reference to vultures gathering!

I hope that your day went well

Allan

Oh Alison, that is great news and what a lovely husband to leave you a message like that.
I really am happy for you

Linda

I notice that Tec said
"I think I will have to assert my authority, and lay down the law with a big stick, that'll bring them into line - withold their priviledges etc"

I wasn't aware that we were giving him any "privileges" in the first place!!!!!!!!!!!!

Good morning Linda.

Are you here for a flying visit?

*sniggers*

Allan

You're treading on dangerous ground here Allan, without Tec to back you up!

I think I did more transcribing than usual to-day. I kept coming back to the computer, waiting to hear Alison's news. Each time I came back, I would do another page of records - seemed to type faster than usual too - and do you know what it's like typing with your fingers crossed? Not easy!

Mmmm! I might beat a hasty retreat and make some tea..what posh folk call dinner!


I'm not sure if I will be on later, so to all Aussies, a good evening.

To all upside downers, have a great Autumn day

And, especially for Alison, enjoy your special evening

Regards to all

Allan

See you in the morning, Allan. BTW - a thread just got zapped! You missed it!!

I see that Allan has flown the coop, probably a good thing before I box his ears.

Well it is 10.15 am and I haven't even managed to get dressed yet as I have been dealing with even more admin. My "to do" list is down to one more thing for this morning, it would have been zero if my sister hadn't changed her mind about the wording for mums little headstone.Now I will have to get another quote reissued,as if I didn't have enough to do.

Grrrrrr big style.

Alison, may I add my greetings. I was thinking of you this afternoon. Woo Hoo, my cancer is stable sounds a bit grim, but it was better than what you feared. Your anxiety was quite understandable.
Allan and Tec, may I remind you that the ombudsperson is probably a woman. Watch your ears. They may be about to be well and truly boxed.

Good night lovely people. Good morning when you wake up, Brits. Hope you enjoy autumn and that winter is not too harsh.

Linda, why is it that the minor things become such big issues for some people? At least it really doesn't matter what you write on the headstone.
My mother doesn't really have a headstone. My father would not pay the absurd price asked for the ashes, so I assume they were scattered in the crematorium gardens. She is commemmorated only on her parent's headstone, although she is not there. It was what her sister, my aunt, wanted to do for her. Her brother is commemmorated there too, although his ashes were scattered into the sea at his beloved beach.

Colin - I do hope you're including yourself when you say lovely people:-)) However don't think you're immune from having your ears boxed - I'm sure you would play up too given half the chance.

Barbra - I wish you hadn't put the idea of Howard and his young lady in my mind. Although I think that Allan isn't quite that age yet:-))

Sue xx

Colin,
I think that it is because she is at the other end of the country and is not involved in all of the complex winding up of the estate.She has time to reflect on things, whereas I just have to hit the ground running so to speak, so to me it is just one extra annoyance having to undo something I thought that I had already sorted.

When my dad died four years ago, his ashes were interred in a special section of the cemetery near where they lived. They have a special garden with nice flower beds and seats and rows of tiny graves, just big enough to take two sets of ashes. He has a small granite headstone with a flower vase set in the top.
At first I would go every two weeks with mum in tow and place fresh flowers in the vase. As mum got weaker,she didn't want to walk to the grave, but she would sit in the car and watch me change the flowers. Eventually she didn't like going all that much, I think because she knew that soon, she would be in there as well. So I bought artificial flowers and put them in the vase instead, as lots of people do. I would just check on them every few weeks and change them when they faded. I also take a holly wreath at Xmas, why I don't know, but mum insisted,so I will continue to do it.

It is nice to have somewhere to go, I always chat out loud to dad as I tend to the flowers. As the plot was in mums name, I am now having to fill in copious forms to change the ownership to me and only when that is done can the new inscription be added, it takes fourteen to fifteen weeks apparently.

Barbra, your Last of the Summer Wine image made me laugh as well

Such annoying bureaucracy, Linda. My father's ashes are interred into a "wall of remembrance" set in a beautiful garden. There is a space for mum. It's a lovely place to visit but I prefer to go by myself although I take my mum on occasion. She's really not keen to go often. It's the anniversary of dad's death on Monday but there is a nice park not far from where mum lives and I'd sooner go there myself and sit quietly for awhile. Personally I couldn't bear for dad's ashes to be scattered - I like to know he's "somewhere" if that makes sense.

I meant to ask you Linda if it's possible to get a map and information on where people are buried in Durham Road cemetary? Does the council charge to search the records? If so I won't worry about it because there are a lot of rellies at rest there.

Sue xx

Thank you folks for your kind wishes, good thoughts and crossing of fingers etc - it worked!!

It's 8.30 at night here and I've been watching telly, struggling to keep my eyes open, so after I finish my milk I'll be off to bed.

Stay beautiful!

My parents' ashes are side by side in a remembrance wall, but a hundred miles from where I am, so I have only been there once and will probably not go again. My OH's ashes are in a remembrance wall too, with the space beside it reserved for mine (which won't be there for a looonnng time yet!). They all have a plaque covering the cylinder, as mine will have eventually. We can put flowers at the base of the wall, but they are cleared away each week by the maintenance crew. Everything is kept clean and clear.

Don't make work for yourself, Linda. Go ahead and do what you want and let your sister see it later - when it's too late to change!

Hello Colin. Nice to see you again. We seem to say hello/goodbye quite a lot! Time for bed for me now. Goodnight all - and to the Brits - have a good day!

Hello Linda, I forgot your sister was many miles away.
My mother died in 1975, and my father was an invalid pensioner. He had her cremated, but as I say refused to pay the exorbitant charge the crematorium wanted for the ashes in a little urn. When he died in 1979 he was buried. Not sure why, but I think his mother had arranged a plot for four graves- her grandson who died many years earlier, her two sons and herself. My sister and I had a lot of sorting out to do. It was a lot easier for us, as I moved back into the house from the place I was renting and my sister shortly after. We lived together for a few years before going our separate ways..
I am not into visiting grave myself, except for family history research, but I know many people are.
My mother's memorial is about 300 miles away and I doubt that I could find it unassisted. Her two sisters are still alive in their mid 70s but have moved away from the district.

Sue, I know that you have the burial records, but there is also the Stockton Roots website

www.stocktonroots.co.uk

searching the burials on there gives the cemetery and the date of burial.

Using that information you can approach the Stockton Registry office and ask for a burial plan for the cemetery.

I did this to help a man in Australia and they supplied me with a map of the relevant cemetery so I could photograph the graves for him. There were no actual headstones left, but I found the spots for him, luckily they were next to other graves. The groundsmen were really helpful in helping me find them.

You can email the registry office

www.stockton.gov.uk/citizenservices/registeroffice

If they can supply a map, then I would happily photograph the graves for you. As you know Durham road is huge,so without a map, it would be a huge task. I will happily call in and pick the paper map up for you.


Time for me to go to the tourist office,so I will catch you later on

Good Morning/Evening wherever you are,

Alison,
I am so happy for you, and your good result. Take care,

Allan, I think the Kitchen Goddess is running amok with a meat cleaver, put Marina down and come and man the drawbridge.

Tec