Genealogy Chat

Hi, I'm new to this and would really appreciate any advice or views from any members who have been in this situation before. I have just started to research my family tree, knowing that it would be difficult as my maternal grandmother was adopted and had four (yes four!) children out of wedlock by 3 different fathers. I have never met my own father, but have found his birth records. Recently I found his daughter (my half sister) on this site. I am absolutely 100% sure it is her as she has a very unusual birthplace. I have sent her a message asking her to contact me and also posted details on the trying to find forum in the hope that she would reply but I have heard nothing. Obviously I didn't mention any details, as she may not know about me but it is killing me to know that she is so close yet so far. I'm desparate for advice - should I try contacting her again or are there any other ways I could try?

I'd go for it Donna and try to contact her again

I had something similar where I purchased a death certificate of my grandma's brother. The informant was his daughter who I knew nothing about. She is my father's cousin but inknown to the family.
i asked for an electoral lookup and sks on her found her and so I wrote a letter explaining briefly and excusing myself for my bold actions. I also enclosed a sae and waited. Four days later I had a wonderful reply and the telephone a details of her two sisters !
Wow, dad's three cousins.
We are now in weekly contact and have exchanged photos and general news.
One sister is actually in Spain this week looking for my brother !

Go for it; send a letter if you can and cross your fingers. What have you to lose ?
Best wishes Joan

Thanks very much for your thoughts and suggestions - it's a very tricky situation. I know if I received an email out of the blue from somebody my curiosity would get the better of me and I'd just have to reply! Hopefully she will do the same!
Donna

Donna,

the other thing is that if someone is no longer a member here, they may not take any notice of email notifications from the GR site. So don't take it personally that you haven't heard back.

Guess persistance is the only way to see if you will get an answer.

good luck

(PS I used to think members who had let their membership lapse could no longer respond to emails, but I don't actually think that is the case, although it seems logical)

Donna,

Diane is right, a lot of people who have previously been active on this site are not any longer.

If you can find an actual address I would be tempted to write. I did this my husband's two cousins that he never knew existed, and they replied almost immediately and we are now in regular contact.

Good luck

Margaret

Donna, if you pm me, I will try & help you to make contact via another channel as it were.

I would definately go for it. I found out I had an adopted half-brother some years back and made contact with him. We have never looked back.

Whirley