Genealogy Chat

Hello to all my friends, had a dog for 9 years but unfortunately today had to give him up, after leaving his new owners, not sure they are gonna be good for him, only let him go for weekend to see how he is, son devastated, would you get him back as I'm quite sure hes not gonna be happy, please lots of replys, Thanks.

Hi Louise Can I be personal and ask why did you have to give him? (Dont answer if you dont want to) Suzanne

More working hours meant less time with dog, so though it would be better for him to go to a home that can give him more home time, no other reason, Louise

Aftre thought: You must of had a good reaon to give him up. Perhaps you could arrange just a few visits (with your son) so that you can see for yourself if he is being treated well? Are the new owners cooperative? If their not then I might consider trying to get him back if they are cooperative then I think you can be a little less worried. It is always hard on children (I take it your son is a child?). I dont have any so unfortunately Im not experienced in how to handle a situation like this where childen are concerned. Could you get a house rabbit or another pet for him to love and be a friend to? Suzanne

Thats really hard to answer as we have 2 other dogs, but buster is a staffordshire bull terrier & doesnt get on with the other 2 although we do keep them seperate, I dont think such a replacement would be good enough, but dont want to confuse buster with the coming & going of it all.

Hi Louise, as long as your dog is happy and not missing out, I would say keep your son happy. Not only that you don't seem too happy about letting your dog go after all this time. I have a dog who is like my baby and could never give her up, but there are things that are out of our hands and if you feel like the dog will be happy then this is what you must do. On the other hand you say the dog dosen't seem happy so wouldn't it be better a couple of hours a day worse off than a whole lifetime from the one person who he/she has depended upon. I can't tell you what too do but I am sure you will make the right choice either which way. what is he/she called I don't like keep refering to the dog. All the best Zoe :)

Hi Zoe, Had him, BUSTER for 9 years, love him to pieces, son devastated, hubby doesnt like him, want him back so much, but I have 2 dogs other than him & work long hours which is why I let him go but want him back desperatly, only been gone 6 hours.

Oh I didnt realise there were other pets/dogs in the family..in that case dont get a rabbit for G*Ds sake...the other dogs would probably have it for lunch! I had a dog for 16 years and when I finally had to have him put to sleep I knew I wasnt able to take care of another one as my circumstances had changed, however, there is still a nagging doubt in my mind as to whether I should not of just got another one and made my self take care of it but work is important too. You have a family to support and give a good example to and I think sometimes we have to make decisions that we think are right. It must be very hard, you are a brave girl/woman whatever you decide. Suzanne XX

So suzanne, what is your advice, should I leave him there or get him back, I love him so much .

Oh Louise, I feel for you and Buster I really do, 9 years seems such a long time My Boxer Chelsea is 10 and started having fits last week so I am really worried about her as I never thought about you know the end until now. I say stand your ground with Hubby and love Buster like you always did just a few hours less. If you miss him its wrong then and he must be wondering after all these years, why he is in some strange house. I am sorry I am prob not helping you am I. I do hope it works out alright for you. Do you mind me asking how much longer you have to leave him. Chin up Zoe :)

get him back, 9 years is a long time to love something and then not have it, my parents have a staffie called Tara shes 14 now and not too good some days but other days she is like a puppy running round to be fussed

everone says get him back , what do i say cos this girl really likes him but they ar not my ideal owners, do i just tell the truth about my son being devastated.

Hi Loise, I agree get him back if you love him. I wouldn't want to be a single day without chels like you probably don't Buster. We could get a petition for your hubby to see if you like. Get him back. Good luck Zoe :)))

Hi Louise, I would just explain your son is devo and you can't do it to him or Buster as you have been thinking how sad he must be too as he and your son got on well, bull her if you have to anything. They have no hold over you yet. Zoe

Sorry Louise comp crashed! Go get him back Louise. There is obvious doubt in your mind sufficiant for you to worry like this. This much worry means that you wernt ready to let him go. Maybe its like giving up smoking or drinking. You try it once and fail so a little while down the road you try again!! Dogs are amazingly resiliant, dont worry about the coming and going of it all, dogs dont think like humans. As long as they are not being mistreated everything else is probably like an adventure for them. AND personally I would try and be ans honest with the new owners as you can. If you decide that you wernt really rally to let him go say so, if its because of your sons unhappiness then say so....doesnt hurt being honest..they will appreciate it if tey are decent folk. Suzanne (Thoughts are with you)

should I text her to say its not working & can I pick him up in morning

That sound like a good idea...it gives them time to think about it and also pre warns them....but I would also phone them in the morning too. Suzanne

Louise, I would text her now so she knows what a bad night you have had and if she is nice like you said she will be fine. She has only had him a few hours not years like you. I am sure she will understand. Try and get some sleep if your going to get him back tommorow imagine how excited you will be it will be like xmas morning. Sleep well and don't worry. Please let me know how you get on. Zoe x

Sounds like the dog has a better home.As you are either drunk or attention seeking.Leave him where he is,if you could let him go in the first place you are not thinking about him.