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found my birth mum but she does not wont to know m
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Stuart | Report | 2 Mar 2009 12:57 |
dont know what to do now i am gutted any body else had the same result help |
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Shannette | Report | 2 Mar 2009 13:02 |
Yes I did too but it may be that she's very shocked or like mine --as I'm so old--she was told that I'd never be allowed to make contact. She hadn't told her husband or her kids so it was a really big deal for her. However I managed to keep some contact with her through her sister and then 12 years later when her husband died we finally had proper contact. It was very very slow and I had to be extremely patient but it was all worth it in the end. Good luck. |
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AnnCardiff | Report | 2 Mar 2009 14:01 |
Oh Stuart - I am so sad for you, really I am. As Shannette says, probably a big shock for her and perhaps she too had hidden your existence from her present family. Give her some time - she will be thinking about it I have no doubt - do you know a third party who maybe could intervene on your behalf? |
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PollyPoppet | Report | 2 Mar 2009 14:10 |
bless you but dont give up like everyone said she may need bit of time and hopefully when she has had a think about things she will want to see you leave the door open and that way you can always say you tried your best hope it all goes well for you |
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Sue from Perth Oz | Report | 2 Mar 2009 14:22 |
Hi Stuart |
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Stuart | Report | 2 Mar 2009 16:12 |
Thank you all very much for your kind words and advice i am grateful to you all and will have a think as to what to do next.Many thanks stuart |
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Elizabeth | Report | 2 Mar 2009 16:16 |
You were brave and stuck your neck out contacting her. I am sure you spent many months, if not years preparing yourself to do so. As others have said, your mum would not have had that gentle run-up....... and I too think that over time things have a good chance of changing from her current decision. |
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Ricochet | Report | 2 Mar 2009 17:36 |
Give her time to get used to the idea that you have found out who and where she is. |
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~irishgirl~ | Report | 2 Mar 2009 22:43 |
Stuart, this is really sad and i am so sorry for you. No it has not happened to me but i will tell you my story. |